Monday, August 07, 2006

The Big Questions That Keep Me up at Night

No less than 3 days after sending out wedding invitations, we got our first present. We had been receiving questions about registries from family members and parents' friends (via my parents) for months, so it probably shouldn't have been as much as a surprise as it was when boxes started arriving on the porch. We've been stacking them up on the large desk in our front room, mostly to keep them in one place to remember to write thank you notes and because we don't know where to put everything.

Last Friday when discussing upcoming weekend plans, I mentioned to a co-worker that we were looking forward to trying out our new pasta maker that we'd received. She was appalled that I would even think of using a wedding gift before the actual wedding. "But I already sent the thank you note," I replied, "shouldn't that mean I get to use the present now?" My mother's response to the question (to use now or wait until post-wedding) is that it's no big deal. She then remembered how for her wedding they set out all the gifts on a big table so that everyone who visited could look at them. We're not getting any wedding visitors, and the last thing that I want to happen is for one of the cats to knock over something fragile. Jeff's mom is strongly of the position that we should wait.

Internet etiquette guides are mixed. I think it's pretty clear that if the wedding is cancelled or annulled, we would need to return all of the gifts. At this point, I feel pretty comfortable replacing any gifts if that is the case. Except the pasta maker and the Riedel wine glasses, which I would be needing.

Speaking of which, you can check out the pasta maker and glasses in action here.


Blogger kristen said...

meh. they're your presents. i say do with them what you will, and enjoy!

how long to go til the wedding?

8:15 PM  
Blogger Tricia said...

That's the plan. :)

The wedding is September 16th, so 5 1/2 weeks to go...

9:38 AM  
Blogger brigita said...

How old is this co-worker of yours and where is she from originally? I ask because that sounds like some seriously dated uppity New England tradition, and this is coming from someone who got married in NE.

Can't wait--woo!

3:14 PM  
Blogger Tricia said...

Late 30's, Iowa. Definitely not uppity; she'd probably say "country" (grew up on a farm). She mentioned that at her mom's wedding there was someone whose job it was to open the presents at the reception so that everyone could see the gifts.

Funny how things like weddings make you realize all of the different traditions that are out there. Like the holidays, except they involve a lot more people, require much more planning, and are a ton more $$$$.

I think ours will be very nice and a lot of fun. :)

5:29 PM  

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